Meet Coach Darlene Wallster 

The Journey To My Relationship Awakening

Does your relationship ever feel like 'Groundhog Day?'

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For over 30 yrs I have been a relationship coach, teacher, demonstrator, ballroom dance instructor, entrepreneur, stage performer and reality show contestant. Through all of these careers I was focused on communication, problem solving, teaching and connection with others. While I was being successful in my career choices, it took a while before I noticed my heart was unhappy in my personal relationship. Postured with a disingenuous smile and a laundry list of Pollyanna platitudes, no one would have guessed that my marital relationship left me feeling exhausted, misunderstood and alone. My husband and I at the time were stuck in a toxic dance of bullying, sarcastic, angry man-boy meets fearful, apologetic, spineless, co:dependent love addict.  

 

​I was boundryless, shame filled and feeling like an angry victim. YUCK!  I didn't have any effective tools to repair nor boundaries for having my own back. I lacked the courage to ask for what my heart longed for.  I learned to walk on eggshells. I'd say 'yes' when I meant 'no' and then feel resentment. I felt small and hardly recognized myself so after over a decade of waffling with ‘should I stay or should I go’, I ended my 28 yr. marriage. I was unable to see a way to repair decades of missteps. Can you relate to any of this?

 

The pain was unbearable. I thought I must be doing something wrong, so I started studying relationships to figure things (myself) out. That was in 2016. Over the first 3 years of relationship research, I immersed myself in several 9 month courses at The Relationship School in Boulder and many other shorter courses that began my pathway to transformation from the inside out. That journey earned me my certification to coach individuals in June of 2020. Today, over 8 yrs. later having studied several of the most effective techniques among dozens of top therapists, I'm thrilled to have earned my certification as a couple’s Practitioner from the Relational Life Institute under the direction of founder, Terry Real. My focus is--- Couples Who Are Stuck! Been there--- Done that and I can show you the pathway to relief.

 

With a new awareness of why we behave the way we do, the impact it has on our partners and  how we can repair, there can be a paradigm shift that strengthens your relationship and deepens your intimacy with long lasting results. Why accept ok when you have the ability to make it great within your reach? No relationship is too far gone if both parties want to commit to doing the work. I look forward each day to practicing what I teach in my own new satisfying, secure, marriage where we mutually feel understood and cherished. If I can do this---so can you.

 

Let's face it, the stakes can be high and disfunction can ripple through generations. I’ve heard it said that the quality of your life is determined by the quality of your relationships. Starting today, whatever your old strategies are, however you show up with your partner, family,  friends, work colleagues, there is room to grow.  YOU deserve to be connected, appreciated, valued and loved! I can help guide you to finding a path that gets you closer to what you want. If you or someone you know would like to explore, expand and develop into your best version of you --- as a parent, a partner, a friend ---- Let's schedule a free 30 minute discovery call to explore your needs and map out your journey towards a life of cherishing and relational joy.